What is rape?
What does it mean?
How do you know it has happened?
The other day, I was watching a YouTube video of a “famous” YouTube star explaining why she had broken up with her boyfriend again.
In the midst of this explanation, she talked about hanging out with friends at her house after a night out. Because she had consumed alcohol, she blacked out for the whole night.
In the morning, she felt off. One of her friends explained that he and her “hooked up”. As she did not feel comfortable with this, she said nothing to the friend or to no one else.
As she explained this story, she was very apologetic and blamed herself for the incident. Her boyfriend also broke up with her because of this.
Watching this video made me uncomfortable and angry. I screamed at the laptop screen, YOU WERE RAPED!
It’s unfortunate that because of how endemic rape culture is, this young woman did not know what happened to her should not have happened. The reason that she felt uncomfortable was because she did not make the decision to “hook up”.
If you don’t give permission,
If you are not conscious,
You were raped.
It doesn’t matter what you had to drink
What you wore that day
How flirty you were acting
If you had sex before
If you did not give consent or could not give consent, it was not your choice.
You were raped!