2017 is almost here!
Now, is the time to start on your goals.
Waiting until January will be too late.
You will always be waiting.
You will always put things off.
Why not start today?
While I have my usual resolutions ready for the new year, I wanted to approach it differently this year.
At the base of all resolutions is the hope for a better, happier life.
I realize that the reasons why I am not usually successful in achieving my new year’s resolutions are because my mind was not in the right place.
I put more focus on doing these certain things than I did in changing my mindset and my limiting beliefs.
The main limiting belief being that I have to wait until the “perfect” time to achieve my goals.
Do You Feel Like This?
Whenever I decide that this is the time to change my life for the better, I spend all day making up this elaborate plan of how I will accomplish everything. And of course, I want to change everything (weight, friendships, romance, school, getting fit) all at once. I want that to happen tomorrow!
So, I pull out my notebooks and large cardboards. I will write out schedules, make vision boards, go grocery shopping, and buy new workout clothes. And I’m all excited for the next three or four days. I do everything “perfectly”.
Everything is great!
Then, I get tired.
Doubt starts to creep in.
I forget to plan for the next day.
Or, someone makes me mad.
Something happens to distract me.
And all that momentum is gone.
I tear down the vision board or just plain ignore it every time I walk into the room.
I skip the gym the next day so that I can finish something up at work or school.
My body is too sore, so I just sleep in.
I start to think, it doesn’t matter what I do because I have too far to go and I won’t be successful.
Next thing you know, five months will pass by and no progress has been made.
I’m back to feeling stuck and all over the place. I don’t feel like anything is together or organized.
I just have a pretty vision board and schedule that is never going to get used.
What Will I Do Differently?
The main reason why I have not been (and you have not been) successful is because of how we think.
We train our brain on what it should focus on.
If we pay attention to negativity, we will be negative people.
Not taking the time to place myself in a supportive environment that will help to train my brain towards achieving my goals will cause me not to be successful.
That’s why so many people encourage vision boards and making schedules.
These are tools that help to train your brain.
But I’ve made vision boards and schedules and still was not successful.
The vision boards and schedules are great first steps!
However, I have found that my mind needs constant positive messages to really make a change. As I have found that with working through my sexual abuse, writing really helps me to connect with my thoughts.
The more I connect with my thoughts, the more I am able to change them to what I want them to be.
If you do not tackle your thoughts, you will eventually fail.
So, I’m going to plan to tackle my mind and take things slowly so that I have a better chance at being successful. And I want you to do it with me!
Get Happy Guide
The Get Happy Guide is a 7-day challenge where I will learn to:
Connect better with my mind and body
As a survivor of sexual abuse, I have not always been connected to my mind and body. I had to learn how to listen to my body. Simple things like hunger, tiredness, anxious, and sadness were hard for me to distinguish between. In order to be successful in achieving my goals, I have to know what my body needs. This means that I have to monitor when something feels off, identify what it feels like in my body, and identify the thoughts that go along with those feelings. I will be doing this during my journaling activities over the next 7 days.
Get better organized
I have so many ideas that come into my head that I want to accomplish and it can get overwhelming. When that happens, I tend to just drop everything. During this challenge, to keep myself organized, I will be monitoring my progress in my journal as well. This guide will have journal prompts. This will keep me organized towards reaching my goal. Also, I still have my vision board and schedule that keeps me organized. They tell me what I need to do each day to achieve my goals.
Set manageable goals I can actually accomplish
On the topic of goals, I have to write goals that are realistic. It’s great to say that I would like to lose 100 lbs in 3 months, but is it realistic? Nope! Unless, I’m okay with doing this in a very unhealthy way. That’s not my goal! I want to get to the goal line in a healthy way for the long term. I don’t want to accomplish all of this success and lose it overnight because I was looking for the quick fix. And you don’t either!
Be more accountable
When we write things down, they become real. That’s why products such as Weight Watchers are so successful. You have to monitor the amount of points you have and plan how to use them in order to reach your weight loss goals. It’s the same here. I have to set goals and monitor them. This blog will also help keep me organized and accountable. I will keep you in mind when I feel myself slipping. Also, success is not about doing everything perfect. It’s about making progress in the right direction. That means that some days will not go as planned or I may not do anything towards achieving my goal. And it’s okay. As long as I get back on track, I will be successful in the long run.
Learn how to put yourself first
At the heart of this, I will have to put myself first in order to be dedicated and committed. I am going to have to say no to some invitations and to other things I may want to do in order to be successful. I have to decide what is going to be more important. Going out and being distracted or staying in and working on my goals? This does not mean that I’m not going to have fun or be deprived; it means realigning my priorities. And at least for the next 7 days, I’m going to be my number one priority. This is a choice and a frame of mind. If you are thinking that this is not possible for you because of X, then you are letting X be more important to you.