I was lost.
No idea what to do.
I was crying all of the time and had no control over my emotions.
My second year of graduate school was ending and I wasn’t sure I should return.
I had no job because I was laid off.
I was broke, no money and no idea of what to do next.
I had been playing around with the idea of starting my own business for the last two years. There was a woman that I followed who started her own business and it was really starting to take off.
I watched her build her business from the beginning and she inspired me to do the same.
One day, she sent out an email saying that she was offering free calls to her followers who wanted to talk about starting their own business. This was my chance, my way out. If I could talk with her and everything would be good. While I wasn’t sure what I was going to say to her, I knew this was going to be a massive step in the right direction. So, I signed up.
During the call, she began by asking me questions. She was reviewing my website and asked me what I wanted from life. I remember that it was difficult to answer those questions and I felt very awkward.
At the end of the call, she made her pitch for me to join her business class that was starting in the next few days. I told her that I literally only had $5 to my name and there was no way I could afford to pay her or find $300 for her course.
She told me that if I was serious enough, I would do what I had to do to get the money. There were many other women who were worst off than I was who was making it happen.
I was angry, hurt, and confused because it seemed like she couldn’t understand or didn’t care about my situation.
I felt dismissed.
After I hung up with her, I decided that I would show her that I could do it on my own.
Fast forward a few months later, I wasn’t any better off.
It seemed like no matter what I did, things in my life were getting worse.
A friend suggested a counselor to me that she thought could help. The only problem was that my student insurance couldn’t cover the session and I would have to pay out of pocket a $100 a session.
I was desperate.
This time, I didn’t care what I had to do, I wanted my life to change.
I worked with that counselor for about four months. In that time, I was introduced to books and other resources that put my whole life into perspective. The time spent with her helped me to take responsibility for where my life was and helped me realize that I had the power to change it.
I was the only one who could do it.
It wasn’t that she was some miracle worker or that she had all the answers.
It was that I was finally ready to stop being a victim and start being an active participant in my life.
Now two years later, I have my own business.
I’m about to graduate with my Ph.D.
My relationship with my boyfriend is going better than ever.
I understand myself and have more control over myself and my emotions.
I’m not exactly where I want to be but I’m miles and miles away from where I was.
How Can You Do It?
Make the decision to accept the sacrifice.
Change requires you to do something different than you’re used to doing. That is not going to be comfortable or easy. You are going to have to sacrifice something. It could be money. It could be time with loved ones. It could be chocolate cake. If the change is important to you and you are serious, desperate even, you will sacrifice what you have to in order to make the change.
Find someone who can help you.
I don’t mean your friends or your family members. You need to find someone that you pay. This is important because their only job is to listen to you and help you get where you want to get. They are not obligated to lie to you or make you feel good. Their one goal is to get you from point A to point B. AND if you pay for the help you are more likely to take it more seriously.
Make the decision to keep at it even when you don’t want to.
In the beginning, your excitement will make you give 150%. That will disappear a few days into the process. It will no longer be exciting and the hard work will start to set in. This is the most important time to keep going. It helps to remember that it is not about being perfect and doing everything at 100%. It’s about your persistence and your progression towards your goal.
Create a morning routine.
How you start your day sets the tone for the rest of the day. Some things that you can include in your routine are:
Listening to a certain playlist
This is customizable to you and what will help you be the most productive. Maybe you wake up 30 minutes early to work on that book you’ve always wanted to write. Or to put your meals together for the day so you can avoid eating out. It can be whatever you make it.
Figuring out what you want from life.
This can be done through goal setting, creating vision boards, and even reading the biographies of people you look up to. This will help you find out what you are attracted to and the other possibilities for life. Once you can identify what you want, you can begin working towards it.
Remember, clarity comes from doing as Marie Forleo says.
I’ve done these things and continue to do them. These were a major part of how I changed my life around. Interested in learning more about how you can incorporate these into your life, click here to schedule your FREE 30-minute call with me.
What is your morning routine? Let me know in the comments.