In order to get what you want, you have to know what you want.
Most people think that they know what they want but when asked about it, they can’t tell you.
They may give you a very broad goal such as I want to be happy.
They can’t tell you what happiness means to them. “You know, I just want to be happy,” they would say.
What do you want?
Do you know?
Today’s activity will help you get closer to knowing what you want so you can get what you want.
Take A Brain Dump
Grab a sheet of paper and a pen.
Take 20 minutes (actually set a timer).
I want you to write down everything that comes to mind when you think about what you want from your life.
Some questions to help you think about this are:
What does your dream life look like?
What do you love about your life now? What do you not like about it?
What do you wish you had more of in your life? Less of?
If you had an endless amount of money, what would you do with it?
What did you dream about when you were a kid?
As you reflect on these questions, be sure to write down every thought. It does not matter if your thought has anything to do with these questions or what you want to accomplish. Just let your mind go and let your pen write. You may even need additional paper for the 20 minutes.
You may even need additional paper for the 20 minutes.
This is not about being perfect or having the perfect answers. It’s really about paying attention to your thoughts. Seeing where your mind naturally gravitates towards. This helps you to tap into those deep desires and helps you to get really clear on what it is that you want.
After your 20 minutes are up, take a break. Do something else. I usually watch a video on YouTube. Your mind needs a break from the dump. You could even come back to this tomorrow if you don’t have the time.
Examining Your Dump
Look over what you have written down.
What stands out to you the most?
Are there some words, phrases, topics that stand out to you over and over?
Where did your mind tend to go as you were writing?
Those things that stand out for you are the most important to you. How do you feel about that? Are these things that you want? Are there other things you want instead?
I have created cheat sheets for you to use in completing this exercise. There is no need to print anything, you just need a pdf reader.
Anything surprise you? Let me know in the comments!